Exposed – With Anita Arrunategui

There are things we hope to never tell. As the unfolding of some events are swirling right in front of us, we already conclude in our mind that this will never be spoken of to anyone. If I dare you to step outside your present thoughts and venture back into past events, I can almost...

Role Play with Anita Arrunategui

Let's face it, we all have a degree of codependency. Not one of us comes from a perfect family. In a highly codependent family the stress and denial amongst the adults is so great that, as children are born, they grow up and assume these various roles necessary to keep the family system ‘functioning’. The...

Sweet Forgiveness with Anita Arrunategui

Lots to forgive in my young life! I had no idea! I had layered down so much pain, betrayal, abandonment, rejection, lies etc. It was a cancer that desired to overtake my very existence! I had buried everything so deeply that I didn’t even know it was there. When I left home at 18 years...

A New Space with Anita Arrunategui

My husband and I moved so many times. From Bedford Stuyvesant  to Canarsie then over to Cranford NJ. We moved from several apartments to a house; from small to really really big and then back to downsizing. It's been quite a ride. Sure, there is the excitement of dreams realized and visions fulfilled with each...

Catch the Wind with Anita Arrunategui

From the shore I could see the majesty of it. Peace and tranquillity flooded my insides as I gazed on the beautiful white sails. They had captured the wind so eloquently. They stood at varying heights and the main one seemed to almost reach the cumulus cloud hovering above. I was mesmerized and almost jealous....

Take a Peek with Anita Arrunategui

  You just don’t want to go there. It’s scary. It’s puzzling. It’s something you have spent much time and energy “forgetting” so why go there now? This is the internal dialogue many encounter when counseling. This reluctance to show up when you are being asked about your past happens frequently. Often, the memories make...

Know Yourself from the Inside with Anita Arrunategui

Does it sometimes feel like you are a “Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde” dichotomy? In one instance, you will say yes to an event and when it comes around you wonder why you ever agreed to attend. Do you sometimes want to steer away from some people for “no apparent reason” and yet embrace others? The answers for...

Being Needy is Normal with Anita Arrunategui

The thing about needs is we as humans often feel embarrassed that we have them, ashamed that they are not being met, maybe angry. We spend a lifetime satisfying them to the best of our resources and we don’t even have the foggiest idea what this is all about. Take for example your need for...

Discover your Type – With Anita Arrunategui

They come in groups of three. We have body, soul and spirit. We have mind, will and emotions. We also have the temperament categories of inclusion, control and affection. This blog addresses three categories of people utilizing the test. It is… For those of you already armed with the knowledge of your temperament scores, this...

Characteristics of an Ideal Mentor – With Anita Arrunategui

“Meant to be; more than me.” That is my personal definition of a mentor worthy of their title.  When you think about it, it's spot on. When seeking out a mentor, one who’s desire for their mentee is to succeed and even surpass them. This is the gold standard of mentorship. This chosen person exhibits...