Coming Back to Life – With Bill and Stephanie Hoffman

Hello Everyone, It's been some time since I have been able to do any writing and I am sorry the Daily Journals have been on hold, as well as our live broadcasts, and of course my meetings with you.  The past few months have been the most challenging in our 30 years together. As most...

Counterdependency – With Bill Hoffman

In their book, "The Flight From Intimacy", Barry and Janae Weinhold expose the sibling of Codependency known as "Counterdependency" . What is it? Well... co-dependency indicates being  "dependent" on the behaviors and connection, be it ever so dysfunctional, to another human being. "Counter" dependency is basically the opposite. It is the posturing that I don't...

The Pretender – With Bill Hoffman

There is an old Jackson Browne song called, "The Pretender".  I thought about it this morning while reading "All is Grace" again, by Brennan Manning. His interpretation is "the imposter", or false self. In any case it refers to the tragedy of living out of a disingenuous place in life, indicative of not knowing ones...

What do You Think You Know? – With Bill Hoffman

Mark Twain left us an amazing quote: "It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble.  It's what you "know for sure", that just ain't so." Our observation concerning temperament is always a lighthearted way to encapsulate this: "Melancholies think they know everything; but Cholerics know they know everything." Of course, the reality...

Brain Drain – With Bill Hoffman

My friend Jesse Barnett wrote a book called "Soul Crushers".  I featured him on one of our live broadcasts a while back. In his book he states; "What do you need to release to find freedom? ... You can learn to unpack your burdens one by one and find freedom." In similar fashion, brain drainers...

Is it OK to Be Angry? – With Bill Hoffman

In the Bible we are told, "Be angry and do not sin."  This means don't allow your anger to spawn a choice that results in destructive behavior, essentially. "Acting aggressively isn’t mentioned anywhere in the definition of anger. That’s because anger is not a behavior; it’s not the same as hostility, violence, or aggression. Those...

Anchored in Hope – Bill Hoffman

The storms of life are guaranteed.  You may not want to hear that, but it's true none-the-less. Hoping to have a life void of trials and challenges is irrational and not grounded in reality or truth. On the backside of this reality is, the "hope" that one day all the crazy stuff we have to...

“In the Meantime”…. With Bill Hoffman

  Many years ago a message was preached by a pastor back in Elizabeth NJ.  The message was entitled. "In the Meantime". As it turns out, all of life is lived "in the meantime."  Every moment is after another moment, and before the next, if we are still here to experience the next moment.  There-in...

Narcissist Twists – With Bill Hoffman

A Narcissist Twist.  I have talked in previous posts about how temperament will affect how the narcissism is played out.  For example, if the person is a Choleric they may be a "classic" narcissist", meaning the controlling, arrogant, knows everything, more "malignant" type of narcissist. The "ego-maniac with the inferiority complex." Then there might be...

Where Are You Going? – With Bill Hoffman

Where are you going in your life? What a loaded question... right?  But valid!  Many times we are kind of "floating", hoping for the best, coping with the rest, with no clear direction or pathway that we are following.  This of course speaks to the "why" and "purpose" issue that we talk about regularly... and...